Dear Patrick: Life Is Tough--Here's Some Good Advice

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Harper Collins, 2003 M11 25 - 336 pages

Dear Patrick,

For five years I have been witness to your struggles to grow up without a father. As a family friend, I can't make that up to you. What I can do is stand by you, and teach you how to be the kind of man you wish your father had been ...

So begins the correspondence of two unlikely friends, Patrick Buckley, a sixteen-year-old New York City high schooler, and Jeffrey M. Schwartz, internationally renowned neuroscientist and the critically acclaimed author of Brain Lock and The Mind and the Brain. Inspired by Patrick's straight forward questions, Schwartz examines the moral teachings of our greatest spiritual leaders -- Jesus, Buddha, and Moses -- and filters them through the lens of his cutting-edge psychiatric research, as well as his own experiences of childhood loneliness and loss. With fierce certainty and love, Schwartz provides Patrick with a blueprint for breaking free from the culture of corrosive cynicism that threatens to destroy him, and for constructing a decent, meaningful, and fulfilling life. The result is a fascinating and revolutionary new code for living born of a man and a boy who sought honor and self-command in a culture of self-indulgence.

 

Contents

WRESTLING FOR MY SOUL
1
RECOVERING INNOCENCE IN A CYNICAL AGE
19
THE POWER OF MINDFULNESS
91
THE OWNERS MANUAL FOR YOUR BRAIN
159
THE ROAD WARRIORS GUIDEBOOK
219
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About the author (2003)

Jeffrey M. Schwartz M. D. is a psychiatrist and researcher in neuroplasticity and its connection to obeseeive-compulsive disorder. He is a believer in mind/body dualism and feels that science and religion should not be separated. Dr. Schwartz coined the term Brain Lock to describe obsessive-compulsive behavior and the treatment plan he formulated and wrote about in his book Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior. In his book Schwartz claims that obsessive-compulsive disorders (OCD) are a result of a bio-chemical imbalance where brain functions will get "locked" in an obsessive-compulsive pattern and that OCD can be self-treated by following four steps. His book outlines these steps as Relabel, Reattribute, Refocus and Revalue. His other books include The mind and the brain: Neuroplasticity and the power of mental force and You Are Not Your Brain: The 4-Step Solution for Changing Bad Habits, Ending Unhealthy Thinking, and Taking Control of Your Life. Annie Gottlieb is a freelance writer specializing in psychology. She has contributed to many publications, including Mirabella, McCall's, and the New York Times Book Review and Op-Ed page. She is the author of Do You Believe In Magic?: Bringing the Sixties Back Home and coauthor of Wishcraft: How to Get What You Really Want.

Bibliographic information

TitleDear Patrick: Life Is Tough--Here's Some Good Advice
AuthorsJeffrey M. Schwartz, Jeffrey Schwartz, Annie Gottlieb
Editionillustrated, reprint, revised
PublisherHarper Collins, 2003
ISBN006098743X, 9780060987435
Length336 pages
  
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