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mother,) and I ascribed to this in great part their high looks and sour forbidding deportment. I have been a stranger to real enjoyment ever since I came here. I place my happiness in the reciprocal returns of friendship and good-will, but this is to me a solitary desert, and I have nothing in it wherewith to call forth my affections. In comparison with this my other grievances are but light and inconsiderable. They are such, however, as ought not to be despised or overlooked. I am seven hours every day with the children, and, making allowance for necessary avocations, I have not above one hour for my own studies. I consider it likewise as rather unworthy treatment that I have not a room to myself, but that some of my pupils sleep in it along with me. However, I shall not make these the subject of complaint, as in these respects I am treated as Mr. G―, and as I entered into the family on condition of being treated as he was, without making any particular inquiry. Excuse any violent expressions; consider them as the picture of my feelings. I hope you will consider the circumstances of my situation as affording a full justification. Please to advise what steps I should take to secure the peace of my own mind, and also to act my part with dignity and with effect. I open myself to you without any reserve, as I am sure you will enter into my feelings, and be ready to assist me with your advice. -I am, dear Sir, yours sincerely, THOMAS CHALMERS."

July 19, 1798.

"DEAR FATHER,-In my former letters I have been silent as to the temper of the people in the house, and the manner in which they conduct themselves toward me. This you must be sensible is the chief ingredient in the happiness of one in my situation, and from nearly two months' experience I think I can give you a tolerably just idea of my condition in that respect. After making due allowances for the disparity of our

condition, and for that haughtiness of deportment which may be conceived to arise from it, I thought there was a negligent and contemptuous manner which the circumstances of the case did by no means justify. I kept silent for some time, as I did not know the place in which a tutor should stand, and thought that perhaps the coldness and reserve I met with was only what a tutor had to look for. But comparing my treatment with the treatment of others in the same situation, and being likewise informed that my predecessor felt in the same manner as I did, I began to think that their behaviour was unwarrantable. When talking to I took occasion to communicate to him my suspicions, that the strong measures I had taken with his children rendered me the object of aversion to the greater part of the family. I told him, that though a regard to no one's humours and opinions should induce me to deviate from that mode of discipline which I had adopted, yet the feeling of being hated rendered my situation very disagreeable. I likewise told him, that I had enough of difficulties to encounter in the children themselves, and that I had little need for anything without to damp and to depress me. His professions were kind and obliging. He told me that he had been sorry to observe for some weeks past, that I seemed to labour under some disquietude. I told him that I did not look for my happiness or misery in the number of hours I was engaged, or in any such thing, but that the dispositions of the people in the house towards me affected me more than any other circumstance in my situation. The consequence of my remonstrance has been a visible change in their behaviour, a more becoming and respectful treatment. But still my situation is by no means eligible. There are still symptoms of indifference and contempt which are little fitted, with my disposition, to inspire me with confidence, or enable me to overcome that timidity, which reason tells me is foolish, but which, with all my reason

ing, I can scarce get the better of. I, however, begin to feel the advantages of an independent way of acting, and am determined to demean myself as if I had an interest of my own to mind, and principles of my own for the regulation of my conduct; careful in the meantime of encroaching on that respect which is due to my superiors. In some of my former letters I said, that you should not consider me as settled here, but should be at as much pains in looking out for a place as if I was yet unprovided for. It was a great object of mine in entering into's family, and I believe you had it yourself in view, that I should have opportunities of seeing men and manners, and wear off those habits I had contracted by excessive solitude, and which unfitted me for social converse. But my present circumstances are rather unfavourable to these ends. In consequence of the low idea they have got of the respect due to a tutor, it is impossible for me to talk with freedom and confidence. I have observed more than once my attempts to participate in the conversation discountenanced by the frown of superior dignity. Hence those who frequent the housemany of whom would bow full low in your dining-room-regard me as unworthy of their notice, and return my salutations with cold indifference. Excuse any expressions which may seem to savour of pride or presumption. Be assured I have a lively feeling of the folly of pride and the fitness of modesty. But I know there is a medium between assuming insolence and a mean unmanly subjection. I shall endeavour to make propriety the standard of my conduct. I know there is an inferiority on my part, and shall study to maintain a respectful deportment. But neither my own feelings, nor respect for my friends, will allow me to sit in silent submission under any glaring indignity. I am, yours affectionately, THOMAS CHALMERS."

“August 21, 1798.

"DEAR FATHER, I received yours, and acknowledge the justness and propriety of your observations on my present state. It continues much the same with what it was when I last wrote. True, there are some instances of condescension, and some marks of regard since my remonstrances with which I had

not before met with. But still my condition is far from eligible; and whatever may have been your ideas of the situation before I entered into it, I am sure it is such as you never intended for me, where I have all the labour and all the drudgery of a schoolmaster, without the respectability of a tutor. You may think that from my youth and inexperience I am incapable of judging of that mode of treatment which belongs to my office. But I can assure you, many sensible, intelligent people-clergymen and others, who have had experience in that way, agree in thinking that both my predecessor and I were much lower in the estimation of the family than the generality of tutors are or ought to be. This renders a change highly desirable. At the same time, I would not like to leave my present place without the near prospect of another, as I would be content to undergo. many hardships rather than remain idle at home. I am, dear Father, yours affectionately, THOMAS CHALMERS."

"October 29, 1798.

"DEAR FATHER,-My situation in the family continues the same as ever. As their deportment towards me consists of jealous and suspicious reserve, with a view, I suppose, of keeping up their dignity, I have thought proper to be as close and reserved on my part. It is impossible to be upon a good understanding with people disposed to regard me in so inferior a light as they do. I don't know what it is to act the part of an underling, especially with those with whom I am sure elsewhere I would be at least upon a footing of equality. It is not,

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however, upon this ground that I argue with here as his tutor, and must submit to all those inconveniences which justly belong to the situation; and what only affords me just ground of complaint is, that my treatment does not accord with what a tutor has a right to expect.-I am, dear Father, yours affectionately, THOMAS CHALMERS.”

"November 6, 1798.

"DEAR FATHER,-I am sorry to think there is anything in my last letter to make you suspect any improper reserve on my part towards the family. I can assure you their conduct towards me is universally disapproved. I never have yet mentioned particulars to you; but do you think I can feel agreeably from being thought unworthy of supping in the same room with the family? My pupils often have this privilege when there is company, whilst I, regarded as inferior to them, have supper in my own room. I am sure they would consider themselves affronted if any persons in the town were to ask me along with them to their houses. I am sometimes asked by myself, but never with the family. When there is company, I am on a very inferior footing indeed. I have been frowned upon for speaking, as if I were thought unworthy of joining in the conversation. To be sure this does not give offence in so high a degree when they are by themselves; but do you imagine that I am to take advantage of this privilege as if I was glad of the favour, and thought myself honoured by their condescension? This is what the reserve I spoke of in my last letter chiefly consists in. I would never allow myself to do or say anything. rude, to give a morose and uncivil answer, or fail in any of the attentions which common discretion or common politeness required. I know that there are some people who, impetuous about trifles, take fire at every little thing, and make a great fuss about their dignity and their respect. But I would ever dis

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